Webinar Summary

This webinar, led by Ari Tuckman, PsyD, CST, delves into the intricate dynamics of relationships and sexual satisfaction in the context of ADHD. It offers a comprehensive exploration of how ADHD influences relationship patterns, conflict resolution, sexual intimacy, and personal growth within partnerships.

Impact of ADHD on Relationships:

ADHD can significantly affect relationships, often creating a dynamic where one partner becomes the over-functioner (taking on more responsibilities) and the other the under-functioner (shirking responsibilities), leading to frustration and resentment. ADHD's characteristic short time horizon exacerbates issues, as individuals with ADHD may struggle with planning and foreseeing the future implications of their actions, affecting reliability and consistency in the relationship.

Working Together:

Couples can navigate ADHD challenges by employing strategies such as effective treatment, developing better processes, and exerting good effort. Solutions involve managing expectations, finding a middle ground, and maintaining personal integrity, fostering an environment where both partners feel understood and supported.

Conflict Avoidance and Cover-Ups:

Avoiding conflicts and covering up mistakes are common in relationships affected by ADHD, further straining trust and communication. Addressing these patterns requires clear expectation management, a willingness to confront issues head-on, and efforts from both partners to come to a mutual understanding.

ADHD and Sexual Satisfaction:

The webinar highlights the significant overlap between relationship satisfaction and sexual satisfaction. ADHD can influence sexual dynamics through inconsistent behaviours and expectations, but addressing ADHD symptoms and relationship dynamics can lead to more fulfilling sexual experiences. The webinar also discusses the importance of navigating desire discrepancies and the role of masturbation in a relationship.

Solutions and Strategies:

For enhancing both relationship and sexual satisfaction, the webinar suggests:

  • Effective Treatment: Addressing ADHD symptoms through medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes.
  • Better Processes: Establishing routines and systems to manage ADHD symptoms and improve relational dynamics.
  • Good Effort: Both partners commit to understanding each other's needs and working towards meeting them.
Personal Growth and Integrity:

The challenges posed by ADHD can also drive personal growth, encouraging individuals to become better partners. Emphasizing integrity, accountability, and differentiation, the webinar encourages partners to maintain their individuality while working towards a common goal of a satisfying relationship.

Sexual Eagerness and ADHD:

ADHD can increase sexual eagerness, impacting desire and frequency. The webinar discusses navigating these differences to ensure both partners feel satisfied and respected in their sexual relationship.

Treatment Payoff:

Effective management of ADHD not only improves the quality of the relationship but also enhances sexual satisfaction, underscoring the importance of treatment and mutual effort in overcoming challenges.


This webinar underscores the complexity of ADHD's impact on relationships and sex, offering evidence-based strategies for improvement. By addressing ADHD head-on, couples can enhance their understanding, intimacy, and satisfaction, ultimately leading to stronger, more fulfilling relationships.

For more information check out Dr. Ari Tuckman's book ADHD After Dark: Better Sex Life, Better Relationship.