Anger tells us there is a problem. That problem might be a bear that is about to attack us. Or a bear that just ate all our food on our camping trip. Or the problem could be that we are stuck in an unhealthy relationship. Or it could be that every time we have to work with a particular co-worker, we bite our tongue and grin and bear it. We aren't angry; we would just prefer to work with someone else.       

If we can't identify that we are angry, we can't ask why we are angry? And if we don't know why we are angry, we can't fix the root cause.

Anger is telling us there is a problem that needs to be solved. So what is anger? Anger is the symptom of a problem.      

When we bottle up our emotions and cut off from them to the point that we can't feel or name them, we are leaving ourselves at a severe disadvantage. We cannot resolve the problem because we don't even know what the real problem is.       

Anger can be a map that we follow back to where the problem started. When emotions like anger are accepted and felt, we get the opportunity to live our life, experience life, learn, and grow. Best of all, we can move past the limiting beliefs that keep up stuck and live an empowered life.    

Questions to Ask Yourself

What problems do you think your anger wants you to solve?

Remember, you can only solve a problem that is yours to solve.       

Example: If your co-worker constantly slacks off, and doesn't do their share and then claims credit, your anger may say the problem is the co-worker. But you can't fix your co-worker. What you can do is stand up for yourself at work, tell your co-worker how their behaviour affects you, or quit your job and find a better one.       

What limiting beliefs hold you back from living your best life?   

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